Choosing to be Kind

Sharing a story from Choosing to be Kind & what the result of this was:

Cosgroves – I chose kind when I chose not to respond to a snarky Facebook post.

Amy – Dad says you’re a kid Dave (re: Dave S. Birthday tomorrow)

Merry – I am in touch with Nina M. and pray for her daily. She’s in Canada and is worried about America.

Ivan – I choose kindness daily with drivers on the road.

Martha – Those of us who will never see 64 again agree with Ed!

Bonnie – Nurse was kind at Kaiser when she snuck me in to sit with Tom and Tami Ely while they waited for transport….that never showed up.

Susan W. – Happy pre Birthday Dave! Next year Medicare! I got mine March 1 and used it June 3!!!

Morgan – Ashleigh had a busy day so I hung out with Kendall to give her a little break. We brought her to see my Gramma and Uncle at The Springs. Seeing her face light up was so precious <3

Kari – I was patient and kind to my dental patients that really didn’t want to have their teeth cleaned.  Probably the parents appreciated it more than they did.

Brian – I chose kind this week when I went to Rite-Aid this week to get rubbing alcohol to make our disinfecting wipes for the church. The sign said buy 2, get one free. I came to counter and cashier said there is a limit of only 1 per customer. She said she would give me the discount price. I was so confused, but it didn’t matter, I took the one big bottle and left the little ones there.

Sally – We loaned the neighbor eggs to make a special sauce. The result of this was he brought us over dinner! And now that he found out it’s Dave’s Birthday tomorrow, he’s bringing us over dinner again…because he loves us!

Martha – Our son invited us over to his house in NE Portland. We were able to spend some time with 3 year old Ada; watch our little extrovert as she talks to everybody in very adult language asking everyone what they are doing & their opinion about what they are doing. And this was a very wonderful time and a time of kindness actually.

Michele – I have some friends who are dealing with anxiety and depression and a few that unfortunately have cancer. So instead of sending them emails, I actually got them cards & sent them cards. People seem to enjoy that extra little something when you send a card.  

Sally – I was really involved with the nursing staff when I was going through the situation with my brother. I wrote a Letter to the Editor of the local paper praising the hospital and the nurses. And I got a call and it’s going to go or be posted tomorrow in the Editorial Section of the local paper. Plus, we have sent numerous thank you notes to the nurses and we have gotten such lovely feedback from them with their appreciation for our appreciation of what they do.

Have you chosen to be kind at some point this week? Share in the comments.

Presence

I saw the man driving past our house doing 40 with his phone up so it was visible to his eye as he drove and texted. I’ve never been to that level of texting and driving. And have given it up, really. What is it about us people that we really believe we can do more than one thing at a time? 

I was talking to a friend and she kept glancing at her phone, tracking stuff that was coming in while we were talking. She was not present. 

At one of my one-to-one visits with Erin Martin, our District Superintendent, she asked how I was doing; I began to sob. Okay, it was not my best day. Erin tuned in. She looked at me and was present. She handed me a box of kleenex and listened as I described the depth of loss my heart was feeling. And then she didn’t answer. Instead, she asked me a question which changed my life. 

Presence. It makes all the difference. One of the most famous stories in the Bible talks about it eloquently. In fact in many quarters you need only name the sisters involved and people know the story. It is a story about many things, although it has been reduced as if to a single contrast too often. This Sunday, we are looking at it from the back door, from the underside, and looking at how Jesus was there for both these sisters and what his presence meant.  

Don’t miss worship! 

Bearing Witness on June 18

A handful of members of Fremont UMC felt stirred by the Spirit earlier this week to make plans to gather outside their church's building along NE Fremont Street next Thursday, June 18, to bear witness to our God of suffering love, inconvenient justice, and hard-fought reconciliation in this time of soul-searching and reckoning in the wake of the killing of George Floyd. They'll be holding signs in support of Black Lives Matter and waving at traffic along the sidewalk during rush hour that evening, showing their congregation's support for our siblings of color and our endorsement that our society and systems must change.

They invite you to do the same. Please consider if the Spirit is prompting a similar action outside your church's building at the same time. On June 18th, gather at 5pm in the public place closest to your congregation and make a public witness. Be sure to follow Fremont's lead in following all recommended pandemic precautions, including social distancing and mask-wearing for all.

Pastor Brian is unavailable that evening, but if you feel led, please take photos — we'd love to share them with the District!

Prayer of Pastor Brian

Jesus, I pray for the people of Westside today that You would bring simple joy and a large dose of hope where despair has reigned. Bring beauty in nature, peace to the heart, and replace worry with contentment. You are able to do that, I know. So I pray You would bend your ear to earth and hear the prayer of these friends and family who really need to know right now that YOU SEE. Amen.

Hope for Tomorrow

In my daily pain

In my daily sorrow

I close my weary eyes

With Hope for tomorrow.

Tomorrow with no anger

Holding hands is the norm

Generations work together

To avoid the hatred storm.

Tomorrow where any colors

Are floating in the sky

All people melt together

And no one questions why.

Tomorrow filled with laughter

Lives filled with grace

Where there are smiles

On each and every face.

In my daily pain

In my daily sorrow

I know that there will be

HOPE for tomorrow!

—By Martha Tunall

Families in Need

If you are looking for a place to do some good, Family Promise is partnering with Beaverton High School to help families in need.  On Fridays they box supplies and the families come to pick them up, or they are delivered on Saturday.  This week there is a need for the following items.   If you would like to provide any of these items, please let Bonnie know.  You can leave them at the church with Beaverton Buddies on the bag and she will pick them up.  If you do, please let her know (503-464-6914) so that she can get them to FPB by Thursday afternoon. 

  • Women's deodorant

  • Toothbrushes

  • Shampoo

  • Laundry detergent

  • Clorox wipes

  • Household cleaner

  • Feminine Pads

  • Diapers size 5

  • Food (non-perishable)

    • Mac and Cheese

    • canned foods like chili, spaghetti-o's

    • foods that kids would like

    • basics such as oil, sugar, flour, etc.

  • Changing Table (a family is requesting one)

Thanks!

The Year We've Been Waiting For

A poem by Leslie Dwight:

What if 2020 isn’t cancelled?

What if 2020 is the year we’ve been waiting for?

A year so uncomfortable, so painful, so scary, so raw —

That it finally forces us to grow?

A year that screams so loud, finally awakening us

from our ignorant slumber.

A year we finally accept the need for change.

Declare change. Work for change. Become the change.

A year we finally band together, instead of

pushing each other further apart.

2020 isn’t cancelled, but rather

the most important year of all.

Brian's Blog: In-between Time

It is surreal. 

First this season in the world is surreal and the rioting in the streets is surreal. The kind of season when I keep pinching myself -- is this happening? 

But, second, this season WE are in is surreal; we are to my last four Sundays with you, the last four weeks. 

For me this all feels right, on one level, but also strange. It was two years ago in March I heard from Jesus, “You have two years left at Westside.” I knew these last weeks were coming then, but that does not help experiencing them now. What a year this has been. I’ve been on a steep learning curve for a whole other area of life and work, on assignment from Jesus. Just like every Bible story there is, I am walking by faith between the call and the miracle. 

Do you know what I mean by that? 

We know the end of every story in the Bible because it has already occurred. We can read the ending. But all those real people, living real lives, with real faith we read about, they could not see the ending. From Jesus saying, “Follow Me,” to those fisherman, they never imagined what might come. Did they foresee themselves raising the dead and casting out demons? Most likely not. They were in a faith stage between call and fulfillment, between the first step and the end of the journey. 

When Jesus said to Jairus “Don’t be afraid, only believe.” And walked with Jairus to his home. Jairus did not know how it was going to end. All he knew was that he walked alongside the Rescuer, the Savior, the One whom he had implored to heal his daughter. He was in the in-between time of faith.

You can look at every Bible story and witness this. 

The desperate widow speaking with Elisha in 2 Kings 4 did not know what would happen when she approached the prophet, feeling hopeless and alone. She did not expect the prophet to ask “What do you have in your house?” She viewed what she had as nothing at all. 

It’s like that for you too, sometimes, isn’t it? You can feel like you have nothing to offer, no way to be involved in what God is wanting to do. I know that feeling. Perhaps we can take from this one story the encouragement -- God will always use what little we have to accomplish big things.  

In this story, this widow got to participate in a miracle. But even in being obedient to the command of the prophet, she could not have known what would happen as she gathered jars and began to fill them, impossibly, with oil. What emotions coursed through her as this occurred? What thoughts came to mind? How did this impact her two boys? She was in the in-between time, the “by faith” season, between call and fulfillment. 

This is where we are now. We are in-between. As we part from one another we will still be in that same in-between time. We don’t know all God has planned for us even as we separate from one another. But rest assured, GOD HAS PLANS for us both! He plans to use us in all He is doing. Using what little we have, and as we trust one step at a time, God will lead us to the fulfillment God has planned. 

I keep coming back to that thought. 

People say, “So, you are retiring!”  

“No, I’m not,” I respond. “I am just moving from the local church into a ministry alongside the church in the world seeking still to reach many for Christ.” 

People say, “How is the business coming along?” 

“Well, that’s hard to tell,” I respond. “Slow, I guess would be one thing. But God has opened some doors and I’m just seeking to be obedient with the steps and praying He shows up.” 

It is this in-between time that is tough. I cannot see, we cannot see ahead. That is why in Hebrew walking into the future is phrased walking “backward into the future,” because, no one SEES it. We cannot see what is coming. All we can see is what is behind us. 

We can see how God answered prayer for us as a community, met us in the privilege we have had to be together, and as I recounted in May, we can tell of miracle after miracle story of what God has done among us. This we can see. 

In my heart, I have a record of so many answered prayers over the decade. These are sign posts. God has done it. God will do it again.

This brings hope. I find that I am a pendulum in this season. I swing between anxiety and hope, between intense grief and joy. I will miss you all. 

I will miss walking with you, praying with you, worshiping with you and seeing you weekly and often during the week. All that, I will miss. As we walk in the in-between time, keep trusting. Jesus has walked many, many others through such times before. He knows how to do it. We will come through and be able to be together again. Know this -- I love you all. Pastor Brian

Next Steps for June 7

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Here are the Next Steps for your faith journey:

  1. Set aside your own priorities this week to treat someone else as you’d like to be treated.  

  2. Pray:  “Lord, teach me to acknowledge beggars, laugh with a child, speak to those who inhabit the backgrounds of life.”

  3. Refrain from giving answers this week; ask another question instead. 

  4. Read the book: 42 Seconds by Carl Medearis

42 Seconds

We are starting a series of messages Sunday called 42 Seconds: What can happen in less than a minute. I am basing this off of a great book called 42 Seconds by Carl Medearis, a career missionary to middle eastern countries for decades. He noticed that Jesus had many encounters and if we base those just on the descriptions we have, none of them lasted much longer than 42 seconds. 42 seconds. That’s a brief time. Of course, perhaps we don’t have all the details. True. But with the details we do have we know that Jesus in a short time turned around people’s lives and situations. He brought healing and peace. He showed up and that was what was needed. He asked great questions, “What do you want me to do for you?” and “Do you want to get well?” among them. For these last Sundays of my walk with you, we are going to ask what we might learn for ourselves from the brief encounters Jesus had and the staggering results He achieved. What if we tried employing the seconds He has given us differently by the help of God’s Spirit within us? 

We will begin with two great stories from the book of Mark. In his book, Mark detailed out how Jesus had power over nature, the demonic, sickness and death in the stories he placed before the reader in rapid succession from the end of the fourth chapter through the fifth. We will start in the last two of these, a double miracle, the healing of the woman with the 12-year ailment and the raising of Jairus’ daughter. These stories depict Jesus’ encounter with the poorest of the poor and the wealthiest of the rich on the level ground of human loss and need. In these we get a glimpse of how Jesus related to people, no matter their station, as simply that: people. Human beings who desperately needed to encounter hope. 

Whereas those around Jesus wanted to categorize the contrasted people in this story, Jesus didn’t. Indeed, He wouldn’t. He never labeled anyone, never diminished humanity, but often, instead asked questions. Here too, “Who touched Me?” and “Why all this weeping and commotion?” 

What if we approached time and people like Jesus did? What if we saw others and reached out to them like Him? The change needed in this nation begins in each of our hearts. Over against racism, wickedness and evil, holiness, a change in how we live, will do the most to impact the world. Don’t miss worship at 9 am on Sunday. We will be meeting Pastor Brett in worship and we will hear a Q&A he did with Gayellyn and Kari.

Calling All Sewing Heroes

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If you have a sewing machine and some time, Beaverton First UMC needs your help in sewing protective masks for our Beaverton community.  They will be distributing these masks to the local small businesses in the Old Town area as they prepare to open under Phase 1.  The mask guidelines can be found at this link.  Please contact the BFUMC church office (office@beavertonumc.org or 503.646.7107) if you have any questions.  They can arrange a time for pick-up or drop-off!  Thank you!

Brian's Blog: Recollections, Part 3

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Banks Community UMC July 1994 - June 2009 

Six years in San Jacinto had been a journey, a time of growth, and a time in which we welcomed two more daughters, Susanna and Gabrielle. At our going away potluck lunch after church the last Sunday in June, Susanna ate plenty of Isabelle’s green jello, which we didn’t realize was artificially sweetened. Susanna was allergic to artificial sweeteners then. That jello showed back up about four hours later all over our friend’s car!  We were travelling in two cars, 4 kids, 3 adults, our dog Tori and a traumatized cat, Smudge. 

Banks, OR was a mystery to us. The DS had told me on the phone there were 5,000 people living there. When we drove into town the number on the population sign said 520. He was off by a few. I then realized why no one had given me directions to find Banks Community UMC or the Parsonage! There was one Main Street with several one-block roads off it only to the right. We came to Depot Street, turned right, and there it was. The little, country-looking, clapboard white building with a steeple church building, another couple of buildings down the street from it, in a similar style, then a 2-story, 2500 sq foot new-looking house, our parsonage. The next house was the final house on the block and there at the end of the road was the Banks Lumber Mill which worked 24/7 except a couple holidays and our house vibrated constantly from it and shook as if from an earthquake whenever they dumped a pile of logs! 

In front of the parsonage stood many church people awaiting our arrival. Karen’s dad and brother had flown to California to drive our moving van north. They pulled in just after we did. We met Dexter and Nancy, immediate friends, and their 18-year-old sons Alex and Jeremy. Those guys unloaded all our beds and put them together. We located the box of sheets and in no time all six beds were made. The women, Gail, Leola, Leslee, Nancy, Sally, Dianne, Kathy and others had put together our kitchen, directed by Karen’s mom and sister, filled the fridge and cupboards with food and tried to make it a home. Linens got put into the linen closet, towels hung in the bathroom, and rugs on the floors. By the time they left that evening we had a home.  

Driving into town that day, the Lord began to show me something amiss. I kept sensing what I could only describe as a split, a divide in the heavens, but didn’t know exactly what that meant. I was used to sensing the spiritual having walked in the revival movement happening in San Jacinto/Hemet. I began to ask around and soon discovered prior to 1981 the Banks UMC had been the only church in the community and a group of the folk in a Bible Study had experienced a spiritual awakening, speaking in tongues, seeing visions, and dreaming dreams. They came out strongly that everyone needed to experience the Holy Spirit as they did, and got crossways with the pastor at the time. The result was this spiritually energized group split within two years from the Banks UMC to form their own church. The group that split off then splintered into four groups. Since then, the other three had died out, and the one other church, “Dayspring Christian Fellowship,” remained. 

It had been about 12 years since all this took place. I began to work for unity, to bring forgiveness and reconciliation between those on both sides of the divide. Part of this was to ask forgiveness on behalf of the pastor who had failed the original group who left. I did this on a Sunday visiting their church and their pastor, Skip Heiney, came and did the same with ours. He and I joined forces to bring unity to Banks sponsoring many joint worship opportunities and ministries. We also brought together anyone still harboring any resentment and hurt from the split to bring healing. It was an effort in reconciliation. God worked through this, although some still said they felt there was nothing to reconcile! Skip and I bonded through this time. He’s the one who walked the Camino ahead of me in 2013 and it was his telling me of their journey which lit the fire in my heart to take sabbatical. 

We served in Banks for 15 years. By the time we moved, Anna had traveled to Brazil and Peru on Mission trips, graduated from college in Canada and was living in Peru as a missionary pastor in a local church. Grace had served as a missionary in an Albanian Orphanage for a month and spent a year working with a youth mission organization in Texas, and was living locally enrolled at Portland State as a piano performance major and doing hair to pay off school. Susanna had done mission work in Australia, New Zealand and Peru, and was starting her third year of college in Michigan and Gabrielle had served for a month in Botswana, and left for school in California, the same fall after our summer move to Westside. Later Karen would comment, “I feel like I grew up in Banks.” Indeed, we all did. 

The folk in Banks are a patient, long-suffering, generous-hearted people. It is hard to have a pastor come with everything you think you want only to find out he’s just human after all with feet of clay, as imperfect as the rest of them. And I had come from a highly charged spiritual experience in which the pastors I hung with were doing major spiritual warfare to “take back” the valley from the enemy. Literally. Prophetic visions and dreams abounded, specific prayers against specific strongholds. And results of immense change afterward. We experienced the work of angels and demons, and saw God deliver people. It was like coming to earth after serving on the Starship Enterprise and needing to live an ordinary life! Plus in my personality I carried a ton of pride in my super spirituality! What’s ordinary after fighting for your life? Okay, I realize I didn’t describe much of this aspect last week, but life is a mix of all kinds of ordinary alongside extraordinary. 

Life in Banks was real enough for those at the community church without all this spiritual warfare terminology. And they suffered long with me. Some of the guys took me aside and tried to help me come down to earth. “Brian, we are simple people,” one of them told me one day. “When Ramona Snowden tells the story of having thrown away the bag with her insulin in it and gone back later to find it still where she had tossed it in the trash at the bus stop, I can relate. It buoys my faith. But you telling of angels and demons, I have no place to put it.” It helped me. 

One of the members mentored me in my speaking style, helped me be aware of my body, how I moved, when I moved, and how I spoke. It was great tutoring. Some other guys and I would meet sometimes over beer and often over breakfast to talk theology. This group just dug in and really tried to wrestle our understanding of faith between Wesleyan and Calvinist viewpoints. I discovered even though I felt this burden to visit everyone, I like connecting relationally, that I couldn’t. But if I visited Estelle Medearis, the 80+ darling of them all, then everyone in Banks suddenly knew I had been there and it was as if I had visited the whole congregation.  

Leola, now 97, did the books and wrote the checks then and she still does so today! She and I still laugh about how mad she got at me. “Pastor, (she still calls me Pastor) you often made me so mad! But I loved you and I love you still! You’re my favorite!” 

I’d remind her how she would get on my case for submitting my reimbursement form for professional expenses. “Pastor!” she reprimanded me more than once, “You buy too many books!” As if the money the church slated for reimbursing my expenses was not to be spent! :-) As I am giving away and packing up those books now, I am wondering if maybe she was right... 

Andy and Gail came to one of my last services while in California before moving. They were in California on vacation and came to visit. That Sunday we had people praying in small groups, singing many contemporary songs, and one person doing a dance in worship, etc. At the door meeting them afterward they fessed up to being from Banks and said, “Well, you will bring some change to our lives, we are certain. After today, we are glad you are coming. ” Their solid support all the years of ministry there was a powerful gift to us both. Soon after we got to Banks, within that first year, Karen began counseling work and God used that safe place to unveil the real work of healing from a childhood filled with trauma. It took 20 years of hard work to make it through to a solid place of maintenance. In addition, my own work of healing from my own abuse happened simultaneously and as you know continued as I was with you here. So, need I say it, we were often a mess!

Through all this, Andy and Gail were solid. Whatever they thought of all we told them, they just were there, like Jesus’ sentries, praying, believing, loving, holding. It was remarkable, for I am certain they did not have a place to put much of what we were walking through.

In Banks at home, we homeschooled our children, Karen tutored other children, taught English, Math, History and other subjects for several years at Banks Christian Academy, and ended up also homeschooling many other local children as well. One year we had 6 additional kids in our “one room schoolhouse” in the parsonage living room! 

At church the folk of Banks caught such a vision for their community. They went door-to-door handing out loafs of bread and welcome packets to all those moving into what was called the “New Development,” a housing tract of 2500 homes that began going in in 1994. They started home bible studies and prayer groups. They established a “House of Prayer,” setting aside a building on our property for a 24/7 prayer ministry. This never took hold. They taught release-time education for years joined by other congregations for public school kids and started a local food bank that has now moved to one of the church buildings. Anna introduced Operation Christmas Child and we collected and delivered 100s of boxes year by year, and this then expanded to them becoming a collection station for over 1200-1500 boxes a year. We sponsored joint youth ministries, prayer ministries, local clergy gatherings as new local congregations moved into the community. One of our members started his own outreach and local church to the biker community which is ongoing. 

In addition, they were steady and supportive of every aspect of our lives at the parsonage. A guy who worked at the lumber mill would bring logs and drop them next to our house for wood. And guys from the church would cut them into shorter rounds and they, and Karen and I would split wood for our wood burning stove. They planned parties to celebrate our lives among them and supported the girls wholeheartedly. They even planned a surprise party for my 40th and helped to fund a trip to Israel for me. They helped with school retreats we had associated with Karen’s work at Dayspring Christian Academy. And they prayed for us constantly. 

While in Banks three different Bishops came and went from the episcopal office! They left me there first because of the deeply significant healing work Karen was doing, then because of the work happening in the community, then because I was the chair of the Board of Ordained Ministry which began with a crisis of a pastor’s misconduct hearing. And then the wind changed, the door opened, the opportunity came and God said it was time to come here to Westside.  

Homework Assignment

Acronyms for COVID:  

Kari Suppes – from this week during a walk talking to God - God gave her this Acronym: COVID = Creating Opportunities Virtually, Inspired Divinely.   

Sally – Christ Our Victory Inspiration; Disciple.

Neil – Correcting Our Vision Investigate the Divine.

Cindy – Christ Overcoming and Victorious In Death.

Can you come up with an acronym?

Power on Display

How have you seen God’s power displayed in your life?  What is the most amazing thing you have seen Jesus do for you or someone you know?

Bonnie – I have been pretending I am an “essential” worker, helping at Meals on Wheels, Aloha Church of God food pantry, Cornelius Pantry, migrant camp….not being fearful. I agree with that 78-year-old lady.  (she would rather be able to be hugged by people than be isolated alone for protection. She would rather receive hugs from people, and if she got the virus, she gets the virus…and if she dies she dies…..)

Martha – Thank you Bonnie – you are an essential worker!  Actions speak louder than words.  God gave us the courage to let LOVE overcome fear two nights ago. Our son, daughter-in-law and Ada came for a BBQ and we enjoyed some much-needed family time. No touching… but lots of laughter at Ada and love.

Debbie – God gives us power to show His majesty.  All the destruction in Culver, OR (possible tornado?); no injuries or deaths!

Kari – I volunteered with Medical Teams International on Friday: tooth pain is universal – I met people from Nigeria, NY, the Netherlands, Iraq, Iran, Hispanic families. Such an honor to be able to help people from all over the world!

Krista – Finley says Jesus was amazing when he healed Finley’s friends who were sick.

Ivan – A hug from an old friend.

Stephanie – Wrapping up Enneagram Class with the group.

Krista – The Enneagram Group for sure and new friends made through it.